7 Signs He/she is Just Not Into You; The no-excuses truth to understanding men.
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Love is a
beautiful thing though at times we fall in love with the wrong people or maybe
at the wrong time. This article is gender sensitive. It is directed to men and
women of all ages. At first I wanted to write this article directed to men but
I remembered that just as men withdraw from relationships, women do equally the
same thing.
I am open to
comments (from any gender) on any points I might have left out. Thank you and I
hope you enjoy.
1.
You begin texting all the time.
This point
on its own is self-explanatory but due to some peeps who seem not to get the
point I will explain. You call and text your partner every morning, every night
or whenever. If you don’t do it then ya’ll gon’ be silent on each other the
whole day. When you text, that is when they remember that they missed you.
Here’s the bitter truth, you in love alone. Your partner is just not into you.
At times he/she might pick your call but that does not cut it.
And before I forget, please stop justifying
your partners’ actions because no matter how busy he or she is time for the
relationship will always be there. Do not spend your time on and give your
heart to any person who makes you wonder about anything related to his feelings
for you.
2.
The know it all
Your
relationship is almost six months old and your boyfriends or girlfriend has not
bothered to know your surname, what you do, your birth date or even where your
parents live. They assume that they know or should not know any other thing
about you apart from your first name which in most cases keeps disappearing
from their memory. They are just comfortable knowing your first name and that’s
it.
My dear you
should get up and run like the wind without looking back. You see those ear
buds in your dirt bin? Well, you are as important to him or her as a used ear
bud.
3.
MIA pro
Sometimes
your partner goes missing in action for three days or even a week and comes
back like nothing happened. At times you seek for an explanation and it is as
lame as the word lame as itself. Honey your name does not exist in his/her book
anymore so stop sticking around thinking that they will change. If they at least liked you they would explain
why they were not around for such a long time but No, they did not see the need
because it does not matter whether you are getting hurt or not.
4. “Honey I’m broke”
*sigh*
should I really explain this? Well anyway, you never ever go out for actual
dates, to the movies or to that concert of a musician you both like. He/she
insists on coming to your place and spends time with you. When you are lucky
and they agree to go for a ticket concert with you, you will be the payer of
the bills because they are broke. Wake up and smell the coffee dear, they are
just not comfortable with walking with you in public. Is it too hard to understand
that? A relationship should be between
people who are comfortable with each other’s company. Maybe they just do not
find you attractive or they are just not into you. Period.
4.
S3x oriented.
Whenever you
meet up at your place or his place, it is all about s3x. your partner always
wants to get you to bed and you innocently conform. I am not going to throw
stones at you for that but I have been carrying this large brick in my bag and
it fits the situation. When you meet up, you do not even talk about how your
day was or what your plans are for the weekend. It is all s3x. it is time you
realized that you have been a s3x toy to your partner and he or she just
doesn’t respect you. You are as good as that toy you loved playing with when
you were a kid and threw it away when you grew up. Move on honey.
It’s worse
for women when this is done t them as compared to guys who bounce back pretty
fast.
5.
Does not call back.
I am going
to explain this very carefully so as to keep you from rationalizing what I am
about to say. You tried calling your partner and left him a voice message. He
or she listens to it and does not call back. You have argued over the phone and
you accidentally or intentionally hang up. He or she does not call back. You
met yesterday on a first blind date. He or she gets your number and promises to
call back. He or she doesn’t.
I am sure by
now you get the drill. They are just not into you. They do not care.
Here is
something to think about: calling when you say you are going to is the first
brick in the house you are building of love and trust. If he/she can’t lay this
one stupid brick down, you are never going to have a house baby, and it’s cold
outside.
6.
The perfectionist
You are
going out on a date and you meet up at that fancy restaurant. You walk in with
lots of confidence because you took two hours just to get ready, dressing up,
making your hair, putting on make-up and all and for once you have never felt
so good. While you are on it, your partner starts asking you why you wore that
dress or that tuxedo. They tell you how it makes you look fat and go on and on
and on and on……
Common
someone who is into you will not do anything that puts you down or makes you
feel inferior.
7.
Slow decision maker.
They are
taking too long to decide whether to fall in love with you or not. They are
torn between you and probably some other person they find equally or more
attractive than you are. You care about what happens to him or her but they
still choose to keep you around as they make up their mind which might probably
take forever. They are keeping you around for fun. Life is too short. Save your
neck and quit wasting your time, money and energy.
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