Being mean, spiteful and insolent has become a silent killer among women today. These traits have created havoc and chaos in their relationships with each other and people of the opposite s3x. real sisterhood can only be successful where there is respect and trust amongst us.






Men are quite opposite to us. For a man, a brother is a brother. What has been disturbing me for some time now is that we are passing on a legacy of a broken sisterhood to our daughters and our daughters’ daughters. Girls that are insolent and mean are usually this way because they have adapted the belief that this is a normal part of femaleness. They therefore grow to become mean and horrid and thus weakening the already wavering sisterhood in place.









Here is a list of the most detestable practices that we need to discontinue in order to heal our sisterhood;







· Fighting for men- this is one of the most undignified things that any woman can do. A woman who can fight, argue or blight another woman over a man is a woman without self-respect. Girls fighting over men used to be a school girl thing but today adult women are doing it too. If both of you are in conflict because his choice was not clear then that means that he is not into any of you. that man really does not deserve love or attention from either one of you. Let him go.












· Gossip/talking about each other- you are not her buddy if what you have to say about her is so bad you can’t say it in her presence. If you are a real friend you should be able to tell her your concerns in her face. If you feel the need to tell other people but you haven’t found the time, there is a problem. Believe me, gossiping is not a fundamental part of being a female. Women who gossip do it not because it is a woman thing but because they want to bring to the fore some women and make others feel inferior. Gossip is just another symptom of hidden insecurities. Remember that whoever gossips to you will gossip about you too. Sad isn’t it?












· Joining female gangs- women who make you feel unwelcome and unwanted within their circle of friends are not to be trusted. These cliques have become common in the workplace, at church, in schools and neighborhoods. Women who join these cliques are usually lacking in confidence and are seeking refuge from their own lack of confidence be cocooning themselves within this circle of imaginary distinctiveness. They thrive on a gang frame of mind.















·· Undermining each other – Beware of any woman who can never celebrate your accomplishments with you. It could be a new boyfriend, a promotion, an award, a new job, a new acquisition, weight loss. If she has nothing positive to say to you about it, does not show emotional support, or chooses to remain silent she is not a true friend. Real friends know how to recognize and genuinely rejoice for
our successes with pride.






· Exploiting our friendships – This is a major one. Why are you friends? Do you only remember her being around whenever she could get something from you? It doesn't even have to be material. It could just be your time or your positive energy. Does she happen to be always on the receiving side, with you dishing out ton loads of yourself or your stuff? Or is she your friend because of what you represent? It could be that your husband's position or yours, your possessions, your talent, whatever, represents some form of achievement. Is she a friend because that link to you places her on a
higher platform? In a real friendship appreciation, support, and
loyalty must be reciprocal.






· Disrespecting boundaries – To survive peacefully every relationship and every friendship must have clear boundaries. Good relationships operate within margins of respect. Within this level of respect,
privacy and intimacy are keywords. Yes, you are my friend, but that doesn't give me the right to walk into your bedroom or your kitchen, unbeknownst to you, and help myself to your stuff. I don't do this
not because you won't allow me to, but because I respect your privacy and your things. Consequently, we both need to know and respect each other's levels of privacy and intimacy. We need to respect women for the simple fact that they are women. If she is a woman she is a sister. period. Therefore, from that understanding I will have the utmost respect for her children, her man, her opinions, her choices, and for her as a person. It amazes me how women are quick to disrespect another sister's boundaries, but feel offended if another woman does to them the same exact thing. Honestly, that type of in consistent behavior can only be credited to some form of mental illness.